Play & development
Strategies for encouraging pretend play with nontraditional objects to expand creativity, metaphor use, and flexibility.
Creative, practical guidance helps children transform everyday items into stories, adventures, and imagined worlds, expanding cognitive flexibility, language, and social skill development through playful experimentation and collaborative storytelling.
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Published by Richard Hill
July 23, 2025 - 3 min Read
When children learn to see ordinary things as something other than what they appear to be, their minds begin to stretch in new directions. Encourage this by introducing mild ambiguity into play: present a toy as a ship’s wheel, a kitchen spoon as a compass, or a scarf as a dragon’s wing. Allow moments of pause where your child decides the function and rules of the object within the pretend world. This slows thinking just enough to invite curiosity while keeping the game flowing. Your role is to listen more than direct, offering open questions that invite explanation and metaphor rather than correct answers. Over time, these moments build confidence in flexible thinking.
To support sustained pretend play, create a simple story seed and invite your child to fill in gaps with their own ideas. For example, begin, “Our explorer found a map on a windy shelf,” then pause for the child to name places, challenges, and tools. Be careful not to prescribe the outcome; instead, celebrate inventive twists, even those that complicate the plot. As objects transform in meaning, kids practice metaphor use—describing nonhuman traits, shifting perspectives, and connecting disparate ideas. Regular, short sessions are more effective than long, infrequent bursts, helping keep engagement high without saturating their creativity.
9–11 words: Build flexible thinking by rotating roles and object meanings.
One practical approach is to curate a rotating “imagination kit” that includes ordinary objects with open-ended potential. A teapot becomes a volcano, a shoe can be a boat, a blanket becomes a cave. Invite your child to add their own items and new roles to the kit, then pick a setting and a problem to solve. The emphasis should be on process over performance, so celebrate the ideas generated rather than the perfection of the scene. When missteps occur, model graceful pivoting, showing how quickly a story can shift direction without losing momentum. The goal is comfort with change, not perfection.
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Language is a powerful tool in pretend play. Narrate silently as needed, but also encourage your child to describe their choices aloud. Prompt with prompts like, “What is the dragon feeling right now?” or “Why did the spoon choose to be a telescope?” This scaffolds vocabulary, particularly metaphor and relational terms. Refrain from correcting spelling or grammar during play; instead, reinforce expressive intent. Over time, kids internalize the habit of naming connections, juxtaposing objects with ideas, and using playful diction to convey mood and motive. Regular reflection after play reinforces learning without dampening imagination.
9–11 words: Use collaborative narration to expand metaphorical thinking together.
Collaborative pretend play strengthens social understanding and shared imagination. Co-create a scenario with your child, taking turns proposing ideas and negotiating outcomes. To deepen metaphor use, invite your child to justify why a nontraditional object fits a role, such as why a whisk might serve as a lighthouse. Add gentle constraints that spark creativity, like a time limit or a specific setting, then observe how choices shift. When disagreements arise, practice constructive language—labels for feelings, suggestions for alternatives, and calm, explicit requests. The practice of articulating reasons nurtures both thinking flexibility and responsive communication in a low-stakes environment.
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As your child grows, gradually introduce more abstract roles and narrators. Let them appoint a “story manager” who keeps track of the world’s rules and inventories the objects in play. This introduces executive function elements—planning, memory, and cognitive flexibility—within a playful frame. Encourage reasoned improvisation, where the child explains why a story path makes sense given the world’s rules. If a scene stalls, you can prompt with a new constraint—“The cave is closing in three breaths”—to spark revision and fresh choices. These tweaks keep the activity engaging while strengthening problem-solving stamina.
9–11 words: Emphasize resilience and adaptability through playful, brief sessions.
Nontraditional objects invite sensory-rich exploration that deepens imaginative stakes. Encourage kids to describe textures, sounds, and temperatures as part of their storytelling. For instance, a metal spoon might “chime like a distant bell” or a scarf could feel “cool as a moonlit river.” Encourage comparisons that connect sensory details to plot tension or character traits. This practice strengthens descriptive language and makes the pretend world more vivid and believable. It also offers an avenue for parental modeling, where you provide evocative language and invite your child to remix it into their own unique expressions.
Improv principles can guide playful creativity without pressure. When a plan falters, demonstrate a quick, playful reset: acknowledge the slip, introduce a tiny twist, and invite a new line of play. Emphasize that changing direction is not a failure but a feature of living stories. By framing shifts as opportunities, you teach resilience and adaptability. In addition, you can set a gentle pace—short, focused rounds with clear beginnings and endings—so kids leave room for curiosity to refill before the next session. The rhythm of brief, vibrant scenes sustains energy and receptivity.
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9–11 words: Invite others to participate to enrich collaboration and language.
Exploring nontraditional objects also opens doors to emotional learning. Children project feelings onto inanimate items, giving voice to fears, hopes, and aspirations through metaphor. When a teddy bear becomes a guardian of a storm or a blanket a shelter from rain, the child practices articulating self-regulation and empathy. After play, invite a short reflection: what did the character feel, and why? Validating their emotional insights reinforces confidence and communication. If sensitive topics emerge, respond calmly with simple questions that invite perspective-taking and resolution. This gentle integration of emotions with imagination supports healthy social development.
You can broaden the play’s social reach by inviting a second child or a caregiver to join. Shared pretend still relies on turn-taking, but it also invites negotiation and perspective-taking across voices. Establish clear, kid-friendly ground rules—listen when others speak, offer ideas, and switch roles regularly. The added social dynamic strengthens cooperative problem-solving and linguistic flexibility as participants negotiate plot directions and object assignments. When everyone contributes, ideas multiply and the play offers more opportunities for success, reducing the pressure on any single participant to “perform perfectly.”
To sustain long-term engagement, rotate the play’s settings and themes. A forest adventure one week might become a space voyage the next, with the same set of ordinary objects recast with new meanings. Regularly introducing fresh contexts prevents staleness and fuels ongoing metaphor development. Encourage your child to carry forward elements from previous sessions—tuple objects with evolving roles—so the imaginative world grows in complexity. This continuity helps children see how ideas connect across different stories, reinforcing flexible thinking. It also builds a sense of ownership and agency as they steer the evolving narrative.
Finally, celebrate the process, not just the product. Acknowledge the effort, curiosity, and collaboration each session nurtures. Highlight specific examples of imaginative leaps, inventive language, and compassionate leadership within the play. When children feel seen and valued for their creative choices, they’re more likely to return with enthusiasm and new ideas. Keep expectations realistic and joyful, avoiding too much structure that might stifle spontaneity. Over time, you’ll notice stronger communication, richer metaphor use, and greater willingness to experiment with unconventional tools in everyday life.
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